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FREE READ µ PDF, DOC, TXT or eBook ï Veena Venugopal CHARACTERS ´ The Mother In Law Other in law herself she is turning out to be an eually unlikeable Mummyji Full of incisive observations and deliciously wicked storytelling The Mother in Law is a book that will make you laugh and cry and understand better the most important relationship in a married woman's li GENRE Cultural India RealisticRating45Duped yes I was duped by the comic cover of the MIL with a rolling pin and the DIL with a skimmer The title had me believe that this was going to be fun read about the suabble between Mother in laws and Daughter in laws But the pages within contained stories or rather fictionalized version of someone s reality that it took the air out of me Each story had me asking the same uestion How can women inflict torture on another of their own Is the power ratio so imbalanced that women go to any extent to have an upper hand While these thoughts were running in my mind I fell into thinking that even though we are fast progressing in the 21st century there are things that still throttle our growth at the roots These are the rigid conservativemonopolistic chauvinist outlook that the society has for women in general And it does not help that this mentality is watered into the men since childhood by their very own mothers Mothers who instead of teaching sons to be kind and respectful towards women teach them to be princes in their own little world where all their whims and fancies are to be met The men grow up to be bigger babies with beards and moustaches who refuse to grow up Their mothers smother them with love and any deed of theirs is considered rightSo when in this euation comes the daughter in law she is eyed with suspicion and the MIL fears losing hold over her son and household Harboring these insecurities she only sees the new girl as an enemy The mil s do their level best to create wedge in the relation of husband and wife so that she is always between them invisible yet whole We have a plethora of saas bahu saga but the book brought forth a reality that was beyond any of thisThe book contains fictionalized stories of real life happenings of women whom the author interviewed To protect identity they ve been renamed but the events are just as real As the title suggests the author went looking for some funny stories involving Mother in law but came back with a bag full of stories of torture manipulation power politics scheming and conniving women Is this the imminent future we are providing our daughtersThere are eleven stories of eleven different women who share their stories about their MIL There is Rachna who falls in love with her MIL before her husband only to realise that she was driving her life in ever aspect Then we have Carla who belongs to Australia and who has a MIL who is unwilling to accept her owing to her white skin and her notions of how Western women are Payal weds into a joint family and struggles through enough but catches grip of the situation and fights for a separate kitchen and peaceful dwelling Keisha an Anglo Indian girl is raped by her extremely conservative husband in the very presence of her MIL almost every night and who enjoys sadistic pleasure in being audience to the torture Then there is Arti a successful journalist who is not allowed to sit on the couch in her marital home which is seen as insult to the real members namely her in laws Deepa whose mother in law called her a prostitute only because she was working Similarly there are stories of Anshika Seema Supriya Nikita and Arti There s also Lalitha who speaks about her mother in law and her daughter in law Michelle who tells about LalithaReading this book feels like a hot gossip session with your girlfriends whewr you bitch about your respective MIL s But the only difference being that the gossip is no fun rather harrowing and traumatic tales of insults taunts tortures rape and sadism A girl is not a commodity to be bartered off as a commodity or chattel nor is she a machine to work without break She is just as much human as the rest of youThis is a well researched and honest book which will be an eye opener to both men and women It goes to show how the silent act of husbands and Father in laws prove to be perilous for the daughter in laws and wives The lack to strike a balance or toe the line for the MIL and DIL causes damage that sometimes cannot be healedStriking a slightly comic relief to the otherwise dry and depressing mood Veena list Do s and Don ts for Indian marriage and also Ten ways to survive the Mother in Law after conclusion Go on and read to know what your future can be or seek solace that there are others like youSome uotes In India modernity is like a new outfit you wear it only when you go out There is no fashion police stricter than the Indian mother in law Indian mothers do have an obsessive love for their sons The whole notion of preference for the boy child feeds into this obsession Certainly whom you marry on that day determines how you live the rest of your life So forget about what you ll wear and how you ll have your hair done focus on finding a man who has your back In many of the stories husbands who don t stand up for their wives often end up destroying their marriages You all talk about family values all the time I am not sure what the family value is when a pair of pants is important than wishing your family members well

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FREE READ µ PDF, DOC, TXT or eBook ï Veena Venugopal CHARACTERS ´ The Mother In Law In this witty acute and often painfully funny book Veena Venugopal follows eleven women through their marriages and explores why the mother in law is the dreaded figure she is Meet Deepa whose bikini wearing mother in law won't let her even wear jeans; Carla whose mother in law Phew I will admit that I am thoroughly depressed after reading this Having grown up primarily in the south to mostly educated liberal parents I had assumed that the evil mother in law trope was restricted to bad mega serials poor education and small townsI know very little about villages to assume anything But man was I wrong Some truly horrific stories about cruelty from the mother in law and on occasion everyone from the man s family ranging from instances of petty verbal taunts physical violenceemotional blackmail threats narrow mindedness western clothes are a big no no a working girl is an even bigger no no one mom in law actually calls them prostitutes and even rape from the husband to the mother in law who trains all grandchildren to treat her as their mother and treats the daughter in laws as maids Phew Real life seems infinitely weirder and crueler The men rarely come out smelling of roses A few of them are openly supportive a few are supportive without knowing how to take on their mothers and in a few sad cases a few brain washed ones actually turn against the wife I guess the only thing to be moderately happy about is that the two south Indian mom in laws are comparatively mild and spectacularly progressive when compared to their North Indian counterparts If I have a grouse with the book it s that perhaps most of the people mentioned here seem to be from a middle class to super rich economic background It might have been interesting to see if small town marriages are similarly depressing or if there are surprises there To conclude all the girls who I know are in happy marriages you have no idea how lucky you are And the unmarried ones you might want to read this

FREE READ µ PDF, DOC, TXT or eBook ï Veena Venugopal CHARACTERS ´ The Mother In Law Insists that her son keep all his stuff in his family home although he can spend the night at his wife's; Rachna who fell in love with her mother in law even before she met her fiance only to find both her romances sour; and Lalitha who finds that despite having had a hard nut m Veena Venugopal s book The Mother in Law is by far one of the most hard hitting books I have ever read This book is a collection of real life stories of eleven women whose mothers in law made sure their lives were a living hell From Keisha an anglo indian girl who was raped by her ultra conservative husband in her mother in law s presence almost every night to Arti a successful journalist who was not allowed to sit on the couch in her marital home to Deepa whose mother in law called her a prostitute only because she was working this book made me tear up a little in almost all the chapters A girl is not a commodity to be traded between families and daughter in law is not a working machine nor is she a doll who is supposed to be dancing everyone s whims and fancies I would recommend this book to every single person in my friend list This is something everyone should read about

• Paperback
• 262
• The Mother In Law
• Veena Venugopal
• en
• 05 August 2019
• 9780143430568